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Death becomes me

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Be warned, this post is about a sensitive topic.

Pardon me for asking, but have you thought of your own death?

I recently did this when at one point during my trip home from the office, I realized that I was driving as if I graduated from a truck driving school (not to mention that, at work, I was flooded with articles on palliative care). I wondered if I would die on the road. Crazy huh? [Besides, if you know me, you would say it would be very, very likely. Ha! Ha!]

 

I know most of us would avoid this topic because we fear death, I mean who doesn’t? We don’t even want to think about it, let alone talk about it. But mordsith and I do talk about it from time to time. We have been surrounded with people who were stricken with cancer…making death very real.

Our conversations sometimes evolve around the death of a loved one:

If you loved one who is alive because of a machine, who is in terrible pain, asks, or even begs, you to unplug the machine, would you?

If a loved one with a terminal disease does not want to be medicated, would you allow it?

If you knew a loved one would die soon, would you give up years of your life so that he/she can live longer?

But most of the time, we would talk about our own deaths…

Given the chance, would you like to know when you will die?

If you had the choice, would you die of a long-term disease or a quick accident?

Given the chance, would you choose to not die at all (read: to be immortal)?

Whenever we are brave enough to venture into these conversations, we start serious…then we go to the lighter side of death, if there is such a thing, that in the end, we are laughing about it, which is a great idea since we don’t want to be dragged down to depression thinking about it. But I guess that as long as we don’t forget to breathe, we’ll be fine.

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i’m superstitious so i don’t really talk about death. i think i got that from my mom who wouldn’t even discuss funeral arrangements or funeral plans, which is really inevitable if you ask me (and if she finds out i’m commenting about death here…well, let’s just say i’m dead meat - pun intended hehehe!).

Posted by glenville at November 26, 2008, 2:11 pm

My wife and I have talked about this, even went as far as buying our own columbarium (pricey!).

If I’d die, I’d want to know when and where so I can prepare (*read: buy new undies and throw away the “bacon”). And I’d want to be cremated as soon as possible. I’d also rather die than be in terrible pain. Masakit kaya yun! ;)

And if I can trade my life so a loved one can be spared, I’d absolutely do it.

Posted by Rico at November 26, 2008, 3:17 pm

“Given the chance, would you choose to not die at all (read: to be immortal)?” - yes, I considered this while I was at the peak of Twilight Saga addiction. But in reality, no. =)

Posted by witsandnuts at November 26, 2008, 3:29 pm

when i was still a kid, i always thought of giving up my life to extend the lives of my loved ones….Im on the affirmative side of euthanasia. I dont like immortality and uhmm..when it comes to my own death, i want it to be heinous,hehehe! am a bit eccentric! Death isnt a mystery, it’s another stage - guess, so it’s not an end either, it’s just another beginning! I am not afraid to die, seriously!

Posted by sunny at November 26, 2008, 3:44 pm

When I was a kid, I sometime thought of…what is the feeling of being dead? hahaha

Morbid thought but we all knew na everyone will die di ba. Sometimes, when death struck my mind, I quickly think of something else. I dont want to think about it yet but for sure when I die, I wanted to be cremated.

Posted by jeanny at November 26, 2008, 4:02 pm

i’m not sure i want to be immortal. really, i haven’t decided yet. but one thing’s for sure, i don’t want to be the last person to die. that’s really scary and psychologically freaky.

Posted by maidapaypay at November 26, 2008, 7:41 pm

good times! :)

the good thing about those conversations is we have different perspectives, and it’s really good that it has opened our eyes to what we don’t see. death is really inevitable and important for the balance. as i’ve said before, our life has value precisely because it will end.

it’s so funny that we really don’t want anything “bad” to happen to our loved ones, but oftentimes, we think of them dying then we get scared. haha. tricky mind.

we also chose whether we want to die by either extreme heat or extreme cold. haha!

Posted by mordsith at November 26, 2008, 8:49 pm

i have to admit that i have a fear of death. i have this crazy idea of being buried alive. i also associate death with pain, being eaten my worms, my flesh falling off…yucky thoughts. this is one reason i don’t talk about death so much.

i’d like to be immortal =).

Posted by kayni at November 26, 2008, 11:37 pm

glenville, hope your mother doesn’t read my blog.

rico, i’d also like to be cremated…but it’s as if my family doesn’t entertain that idea.

wits, ako rin, for a moment after reading the twilight series, I actually wanted to be immortal. but when you think hard about it…it’s not really a good idea.

sunny, iba ka! di takot mamatay! well, baka kasi ready ka na. hope my mind works like yours…

Posted by kumarenggrace at November 27, 2008, 6:17 am

jeanny, I always think of what it was like to be dead…lulutang ka na lang ba?

mai, I watched a movie na parang sya na lang natira…si Will Smith ata yung actor. it was freaky nga…and lonely.

mordsith, dami na kasi natin napag usapan eh…nakalimutan ko na yu iba…

kayni, try thinking of funny scenarios naman, para you wouldn’t be so afraid of death.

ako kasi, besides the fact that diseases are all around me, at work, some of the articles I read are on death. kaya di ko talaga maiwasan! :)

Posted by kumarenggrace at November 27, 2008, 6:20 am

Hubby and I have talked of deaths, and even our own deaths. I just wanted the family to shorten their grief, so I am into cremation, and if they place me in a coffin, I’d like it orange, weird no? And i want to sleep on my favorite side, not the usual position they place the deads in the coffin, I want to bring with me a comfy pillow too. Weird ba talaga ako? Serious, we talked of that!

Posted by sheng at November 27, 2008, 8:55 am

hello..dropping here:)
wierd nun..:)

Posted by tanchi at November 27, 2008, 11:54 am

sheng….weird ka nga. I mean orange? ha! ha!

Posted by kumarenggrace at November 28, 2008, 7:02 am

there are times that you suddenly think about it.. minsan nag-iisip na lang ako ng ibang bagay… kung anu-ano naiisip ko pag yun ang nasa isip ko.. medyo magulo ba.. hehehe… i think of the worst thing will happen to me if i think about it..

Posted by pakjwan at November 28, 2008, 11:06 am

hmmmn… parang ayaw ko mag-comment dito. :D i actually typed something but after typing d***h, kinilabutan ako. so i erased it. next topic please….

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